Stop after the point
The sentence after your best sentence is where arguments go to die.
You made the point. Then you added a caveat, an example, a 'you know?', a joke to soften it — and gave them four new things to argue with instead of one. Land it, then close your mouth. Silence after a good point is pressure on THEM.
Instead of
So I think we should delay it, basically, I mean unless you think otherwise, it's just that last time — sorry, go on.
Try
I think we should delay it by two weeks. (stops.)
Try it today
Make one point today and then say nothing for five full seconds.
The science
The 'presenter's paradox' again (Weaver et al., 2012): additions after a strong point lower the average impression. Negotiation trainers call the extra sentence 'buying it back'.
Where you'd actually use it
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Next lesson
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